Most people know how to really hurt the ones they're close to. Generally, people will steer clear of using their most hurtful tools in the arsenal of arguing unless the situation is dire. My ex and I had loads of insults and bashes that were never used because they would cross a line. I never ridiculed him for being less intelligent or not the most socially gifted person. He never called me fat (at least not out right) nor did he pick at my most tender wounds. We had an unspoken rule about resorting to that level of hurt.
Apparently, not everyone has taken the "Arguing for Dummies" class they teach in "Relationships for I-dots." What am I on about? I learned tonight that my younger brother's step mom has a habit of telling him "Your Mom would agree with me" when they're arguing about stuff. From the sound of things, she's right. Our mom might have agreed with her on some of their arguments. But, that's not the point. The point is you don't use someone's dead mother as a tool in an argument. Especially not in a frivolous, weekly, teenage squabble. I almost don't have the words to describe how inhumane that is to say to a teenage boy. I can't imagine the emotional abuse that's going on in that household.
I guess I shouldn't think that everyone conducts themselves at a base level of decency... It's just that there are lines people shouldn't cross. Going over that line in such a careless manner is cruel and abusive on so many levels. I feel I should intervene.
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